Marriage is perhaps the most important commitment two human beings can make with each other. It is a covenant and as such needs to be treated with the gravity that it deserves. One of the ways you can ensure that you are making the right choice by getting married is to make sure you’re marrying the right person. But how do you know the right person? Sure the person you’re with right now fills your stomach with butterflies, and they make you laugh, and they just get you. But does any of that mean you’re ready to spend the rest of your lives together? Are you ready for marriage?
In this article, we’re going to look at some of the things you should be looking out for when you make this monumental decision. Some of them you’ve already thought about, others might be entirely new. We hope they help you make the decision.
You’re Still In Love With The Idea Of Your Partner Rather Than Who They Are
This one will need some explaining. Usually, our partners aren’t everything we want in a partner. In fact, sometimes they grossly miss the mark. But there are situations where we have so much faith in their potential that we hang on, hoping that one day they’ll change and the relationship will turn into a fairytale. The problem with this type of thinking is that it stands on very shaky ground. Your partner may not change soon; they may never change at all, and if you’re basing your marriage on the assumption that they will, you really aren’t ready for marriage.
Your Communication With Your Partner
One of the pillars of a successful marriage is the level of communication that the couple can achieve. A couple that communicates well and can resolve all their arguments amicably is likely to last much longer than one that resorts to grudges, silent treatments, and hits below the belt. You should particularly look out for situations where you and your partner happen to argue about the same thing over and over again without ever resolving it. This usually indicates that there are some fundamental bones of contention that you two haven’t fully sorted out. If you can’t fully resolve your arguments before moving on, then you might just not be ready for marriage.
Your Principles And How They Compare With Your Partner’s
This is perhaps the most important thing to consider before you decide to get married. Even if you’re madly in love with your partner and have found a way to open up to them and communicate, there is one thing that could be the difference between marital bliss and a nasty separation or divorce down the line. This is how compatible your world views are. You might think you’re very compatible, but simply sharing a favorite color or liking the same basketball team does not even begin to scratch the surface. Do you agree on your religious views? Are your political outlooks the same? What about how you’ll handle your finances and raise your children? You need to look deep into yourself and find out these things before you exchange those vows.
These 3 are among many key things you should consider before you get married. There are many more but these are some of the most important to consider. If you do it right, marriage can be the best thing to ever happen to you. If you do it wrong, however, the resulting fallout can leave deep emotional scars that never heal. Don’t rush into it. Take your time and make sure you’re ready first.