How many times have you heard them talk about staying friends after a breakup in movies? Don’t you wish there was a proven method to breaking up and staying friends? Would you believe that there is?
You can have the best of both worlds if you know there’s no hope for a romantic future but want to keep your best friend in your life. You’ll just both have to work a little harder to make it happen.
Be Nice When Breaking Up
Breaking up sucks no matter which side of the breakup you’re on. It may feel as though it’s worse on the receiving end, but that’s a subject for endless hours of debate. The bottom line is that if you’re the one doing the dumping being sensitive is the absolute best way to go. No matter how angry, hurt, passive aggressive, or weepy eyed the other person becomes you need to be as nice as humanly possible if you hope to salvage a friendship from these romantic ashes.
Don’t Withhold Your Friendship
The best way, always, to get a friend is to be a friend. Don’t take away your friendship when you eliminate the romantic possibilities. Offer to be there for your ex and mean it. Don’t go back on breaking up. You need that distance once you’ve thrown the gauntlet down and you need to draw a line between the relationship and the friendship. There have to be boundaries. You do want to be a friend first though. It’s the only way you’re going to receive that coveted friendship in return.
Give Your Ex an Honest Answer for Ending Things
If you want to leave the door to friendship with your ex open you need to begin with an honest answer for the breakup. No matter what, the truth will be better feeding your soon to be ex a lie. The truth has a nasty habit of showing up when least expect anyway, so it’s better to get it out now rather than risking a betrayal of friendship and trust further along in your friendship.
Before you move forward in the direction of a friendship with your ex, it’s a good idea to solve those unresolved issues between the two of you. Otherwise, they may crop up later and impact your ability to be friends. The sooner you do this, the better position you’ll be in to pursue a new and different relationship with your ex. You might even open the door to working things out romantically between the two of you, but you can’t do anything until the problems between you have been handled.
One final thing to note in this proven method to breaking up and staying friends is that the best way to get anything you want is to ask for it. If you’re sincerely interested in visiting friends, ask your ex to be your friend. It may take a little time to reach that point, but the odds are good that you’ll get what you want if you do all these things.