Women tend to be the hardest hit at the early stages of a breakup but studies have shown that men actually will be the ones suffering into the long term, in fact, they are likely to never fully get over it.
According to the research conducted, men were found to suffer over a longer period time as the loss starts to sink in. A lot of this has been attributed to the pressures of having to start competing again in the single market.
Researchers at Binghamton University have stated that the differences come down to biology. Women tend to have more to lose by dating the wrong person, thus are better at coming to terms with the fact of a relationship being over and are more accepting of the process of finding a new partner.
“Put simply, women have evolved to invest far more in a relationship than a man,” Morris said. “A brief romantic encounter could lead to nine months of pregnancy […] while the man may have ‘left the scene’ literally minutes after the encounter.”
Arguments can be made that it is also seen as easier for women to re-enter the dating scene as many of the entail steps needed to gain a new relationship are generally left to the man to initiate. This includes things like first contact, planning dates, and general “wooing” of a woman.
Additionally, men face pressures (true or not) that women generally don’t have to worry about. This includes but is not limited to the quality of their clothes, the style of their hair, whether or not they own a car and how nice their apartment is.
While arguments can be made that you do not need these things to secure a mate, the general thought process is that you do. This adds a lot of pressure onto a guy who’s already feeling less secure with himself after being left by his previous lover.
To add to it all, men are more likely to reflect on their life choices and compare with friends. Often times this will lead them to reflect on their past lovers and bring up old feelings. Men’s tendency to pursue ex for booty calls also adds to this, as hooking up with an ex is never a good choice, and in the event that they don’t get the booty call they are after it will add another rejection to the list.
While some of these issues are truly preventable from the man’s side alone, overall most men will go down these paths, leading them to struggle much more than their partners with coming to terms with a breakup and moving on fully. Constantly comparing will also cause them to bring up old feelings, where women tend to find a new mate and fall back in love, forgetting all about the previous relationships. Women also tend to be more supportive of their friends during a breakup period then men are.
So next time you find yourself wondering if your ex ever thinks about you, or if he cares for you at all anymore, you can rest easy knowing that studies have proven that more times than not he definitely is.